Picking A Baby Name That Will Survive The Test Of Time
For as long as man has walked upon the earth, and tribes of people have had a common language, new parents have struggled with the names to give to their offspring.
Adam and Eve chose to name their children, Cain, Abel and Seth.
In the United States, Cain is still in use as a name for a boy today. Cain made the top 1000 list of boys’ names in 1994, 1996 and 1997, according to the Social Security Administration.
Since 1880, when the Social Security Administration started tracking this data, Abel has remained in the top 1000 list of boys’ names, with the only exception being in 1905. For the last two decades, Abel has been hovering in the 300s of the top 1000 list of boy names.
Seth has been even more popular than his two brothers. Seth has been on the list every single year since 1880. From 1978 to 1997, Seth hovered between 90 and 106. Between 1998 and 2005, Seth ranged between 63 and 90, hitting its peak in 2000. In 2006, Seth slipped back into the 100s, and it dropped to 128 in 2008.
Solomon has held a place in the middle of the list, since 1880.
Solomon’s son David represents one of the most popular baby names in the history of the top 1000 list. David has never dipped below number 32 on the list. David maintained a single-digit ranking from 1937 to 1991, hitting the number one spot once in 1960. Since 1992, David has maintained its popularity, placing year-after-year in the lower- to mid-teens in the top 1000 list of baby names for boys.
Joseph outperforms David in its overall popularity. Joseph hit its lowest ranking in the top 1000 list of baby names for boys, according to the Social Security rankings, in 1968 and 1970, when it dropped to number 16. But contrary to David, Joseph has never risen higher than number five on the list. David did manage to maintain single-digit rankings from 1880 to 1933, again in 1991, and from 1999 to 2004.
Mary, mother of Jesus, has put everyone else to shame. Mary was the top-rated baby name for girls from 1880 to 1946, and then it dropped to number two from 1947 to 1952. Mary became the top name again in 1953 and held the spot until 1961. Mary remained in the single-digits until 1971, before dropping out of the single-digits altogether. Mary managed to remain in the top 50 names for baby girls until 2001, and then it began trending downwards on a consistent basis. In 2008, Mary had reached its lowest level in history, when it hit number 97.
Jesus has been in the top 1000 list since 1880, with one exception in 1891. Jesus has been trending upward as a favorite boys name since 1941. In 1990, Jesus reached the top 100 for the first time in history, and peaked at 66 in 2001 and 2002. In 2008, Jesus was the 79th most popular name for baby boys.
Matthew has made the top 1000 list of boy names since the government started collecting this data. Matthew bounced between 105 and 209, between 1880 and 1955. Beginning in 1956, Matthew breached the coveted top 100 lists, and then in 1972 and 1973, it was the tenth most popular name on the list. Beginning in 1974, Matthew entered into single-digits, peaking at number two in 1995 and 1996. In 2008, Matthew returned to double-digits, sitting at number ten.
Mark has never dipped below 256 on the list of popular names for boys. It remained in the lower single-digits from 1955 to 1970, peaking at number six between 1959 and 1964. Mark has been trending downwards since 1971 and currently sits at 139.
Luke reached its lowest point on the list in 1942 at 601. It broke into the top 100 for the first time in 1980, and has maintained its top-100 status since 1992. It is currently trending upward and sitting at number 43.
John was the number one boy name from 1880 to 1923. It did not drop from the top 10 until 1987. It is still trending downwards, hitting number 20 for the first time in history in 2008.
Paul has also been a perennial favorite, maintaining a place in the top 100 through 1999. It peaked at number 12 in 1916, 1930 and 1931. Between 1893 and 1973, Paul hovered in the teens to mid-twenties. Since 2000, Paul has slipped into the low- to mid-100s, and it is currently trending downwards.
People have been naming their children after Biblical characters, since before people began to write the Bible stories down on paper. Even in the 21st century, Biblical names remain very popular for a lot of new parents.
Biblical names are in some cases more popular than they have ever been in history. The continued strength of Biblical baby names indicates that baby names derived from Scripture should continue with us for a very long time.
About The Author:
Amanda van Hess is a freelance writer and editor who often helps friends choose the right baby name. She writes frequently about biblical baby names and other name topics at: http://www.babynamesgarden.com/
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Baby Names For Twins – Double The Trouble
Deciding on a baby name is tough enough without having to decide for two – twins that is… Twins are double the fun and double the trouble.
Once mom realizes that she is sporting two under the hood, the challenges of naming her unborn children becomes much more difficult. Should she just choose two distinct names, or should she choose two names that fit well together or have a relationship to one another?
If she decides to name the twins with names that fit together beautifully, then comes the question of how closely the names should resemble each other? For example, a friend of the family named her twin girls, Cindy and Mindy. Another couple named their twin boys, Bill and Will.
Other parents may choose to match the names based on a shared first letter, such as Brian and Brad, or the #1 baby name combination for twins, Jacob and Joshua. The 11th most popular name pair for twins is the girls, Hailey and Hannah.
Some parents like to choose names that have a historical relationship, like Elijah and Isaiah from the Bible (14th most popular). Other popular combinations for pseudo-Biblical names are the combination for girls, Faith and Hope, the 4th most popular; and Faith and Grace, which is the 34th most common baby name pair for twin girls.
Other popular twin names from a Biblical origin include: Isaac and Isaiah, Jonathan and Joshua, Benjamin and Samuel, James and John, Christian and Christopher, Jacob and Matthew, Jacob and Joseph, John and Joseph, and Hannah and Sarah.
The 29th most popular combination for twin names is Alexander and Zachary, an A-to-Z combination in baby names.
Some names were used multiple times in the naming pairs, which indicated that those baby names are generally popular. For boys, the favorite names are: Jacob, John, Joshua, Matthew, Joseph, Benjamin, Alexander and Andrew. For girls, the favorite names are: Hannah, Madison, Jordan, Emma, Emily and Elizabeth.
For fraternal twins, the most popular choices include (boys name first): Mason and Madison, Justin and Jordan, Ethan and Emma, Ethan and Emily, Matthew and Madison, Jacob and Jordan, Joshua and Jordan, and Landon and Logan.
Famous Twins in History
Ann Landers and Abigail Van Buren were twin sisters, who both went on to write syndicated advice columns for more than 50 years.
Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen starred in the 1980s TV Sitcom \”Full House\”, as children. They remain famous for their antics as reported in celebrity magazines.
Tegan and Sara Quin are independent singer/songwriters, whose CD \”So Jealous\” was featured in Rolling Stone magazine in 2004, as one of the year’s top 50 best albums of the year.
Dylan and Cole Sprouse appeared as twin brothers on the shows, \”The Suite Life of Zack and Cody\” and \”The Suite Life on Deck\”, both appearing on the Disney Channel.
The Twins of Famous People
Elvis Presley’s twin brother Jesse Garon died at birth.
Justin Timberlake’s fraternal twin sister Laura Katherine died shortly after birth.
Kiefer Southerland’s twin sister, Rachel, is a post-production supervisor working in film and television in Toronto.
Actress Scarlett Johansson has a twin brother by the name of Hunter, who worked as a campaign organizer for the Obama campaign in Denver, Colorado.
Ashton Kutcher’s fraternal twin brother, Michael, still lives in Iowa and works as a salesman.
Jill Hennessey of \”Law and Order\” fame has a twin sister, Jacqueline, who is a star in her own right in Canada, hosting a current affairs television program called, \”Medical Intelligence\”.
Alanis Morissette has a twin brother, Wade, who blends his own music with yoga. Wade is a star in his own right in the yoga community.
Jon Heder, famous for his role as \”Napoleon Dynamite\”, has an identical twin brother with whom he set up a production company in the film industry. Daniel Heder worked as an animator on the movie \”Monster House\”.
In Conclusion
For many parents, figuring out what they will name one child is challenge enough… But preparing to name two children is always more difficult…
There is a lot to think about when selecting baby names for twins, but in the end, all new parents will do just fine with this task…
About The Author:
Amanda van Hess is a freelance writer and editor who often helps friends choose the right baby name. She writes frequently about naming twins and other name topics at: http://www.babynamesgarden.com/
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Tips For Naming A Baby, When You Want To Be Surprised By The Baby’s Sex
In recent years, with the availability of inexpensive ultrasound procedures, it seems that all soon-to-be parents are racing to have an ultrasound done to learn the sex of their unborn baby.
However, many new parents still prefer finding out the sex of their new baby on his or her birthday. Much like waiting to open a Christmas gift on Christmas morning, some parents prefer to learn the sex of the child on his or her day of birth.
Of course, this offers real challenges to new parents, when naming their new child. Some parents will choose a boy name and a girl name, so they are ready to name the baby when it comes. But other parents would prefer to give their new child a name that could be used with a boy or a girl.
According to records from the U.S. Census Bureau, in 1995 in the United States, 77 of the top 1000 names given to newborn babies were names that were used for both boys and girls. By 2005, there were only 64 names in the top 1000 names given that were classified as a unisex, or androgynous, name.
Between 1995 and 2005, 38 names fell off of the unisex list of baby names. A few of those names fell out of favor entirely. Those names that were still in use in 2005 actually shifted to the boys, as opposed to the girls, contrary to the conventional wisdom concerning the fate of unisex names.
In 2005, Alex, Adrian, Blake, and Carson had become predominantly names for little boys. On the other side, Dana, Erin, Leslie, and Madison lost their unisex status to become names used primarily for little girls.
All baby names have a tendency to trend towards one sex or another. For example, 50 years ago, the Irish-name Shannon was a name that defined mostly boys. About 40 years ago, Shannon started trending towards girls. As we have entered into the 21st century, most Shannon’s are girls, but occasionally you may meet a man by the name of Shannon. Shannon is a name that is on the decline, and declining very fast for boys.
Another example of an old male name is Addison. In 1934, Addison disappeared from the top 1000 list of male names, but made a comeback in 1986, starting its most recent journey as the 513th most popular name for a boy. Addison has continued in the top 1000 list as a preferred name for males, hovering in the 500 and 600 range, until 2008 when it dropped to the 820th most popular name for a boy.
In 1994, Addison cracked the top 1000 on the other side of the table, as the 800th most popular name for a baby girl. Since 1994, Addison has continued to climb steadily through the ranks of the most popular choices of names for a baby girl. In 2006, Addison cracked the top 100 names for a baby girl for the first time, placing Addison at number 28. In 2007, Addison had risen to number 11, dropping slightly in 2008 to number 12, as a girl’s name.
During the 10 years, between 1995 and 2005, the following have remained unisex names, but trended male: Angel, Armani, Ashton, Cameron, Devin, Devon, Drew, Dylan, Jaden, Jaiden, Jayden, Jordan, Logan, Micah, Phoenix, Quinn, Rowan, Ryan, Skyler, and Tyler.
During the same period, between 1995 and 2005, the following have remained androgynous names, but trended female: Alexis, Ariel, Avery, Bailey, Campbell, Camryn, Charlie, Dakota, Emerson, Guadalupe, Harley, Hayden, Jadyn, Jaidyn, Jamie, Jordyn, Kendall, Kennedy, Morgan, Parker, Reagan, Reese, Riley, Rylee, Shea, Skylar, Taylor, and Teagan.
The preferences of parents in naming children has always, and will always, change from generation to generation. What is popular today will likely be unpopular tomorrow; and what is unpopular today will be popular tomorrow.
Just as the miniskirt came into fashion and then receded into the history books, it has seen a renaissance in the last few years. Fashion trends come and go; and baby names come and go.
Many people suggest that these things are generational, and perhaps they are. In one generation, parents desire to give their children average, ordinary names; and then in the next generation, parents desire to assign their children unique and interesting names.
The name that your parents gave you may be on the way in or on the way out. It may be trending male, or it may be trending female.
As you are preparing for the arrival of your next child, you are bound to give a lot of thought and consideration to what you will name him or her. You may choose a name that is simple and ordinary, or you may seek to find a name that will define your child has truly unique.
But, if you have difficulty deciding upon the name for your next child, please visit our website shown below, and let us introduce you to the thousands of other names you might like to choose.
About The Author:
Amanda van Hess is a freelance writer and editor who often helps friends choose the right baby name. She writes frequently about unisex baby names and other name topics at: http://www.babynamesgarden.com/
What’s Important in a Relationship
Sometimes, being in a love relationship is so scary that we’ll destroy it just to get out.
What? Destroy your own relationship? You worked so hard to get it! That doesn’t make sense…. or does it?
On the surface, you think that being in love is the greatest thing since sliced bread, but underneath you’re flailing and kicking and trying to get back to the status quo, which is you being alone and miserable. It sucks, but you’re used to life there. If Alone and Miserable were a bar, everybody there would know your name.
Did you know that this self-destruction business is coded into your DNA? Yep, you’re hard-wired to do this stuff. (What’s up with that?) We have a flight or fight instinct. Back in the day, it was what made you either beat up the caveman who stole your cavewoman or run away because he was wearing saber-toothed tiger furs, which meant he was obviously more aggressive than you were.
Nowadays, when things get too emotionally difficult, our fight or flight response is triggered and we start doing crazy things like stalking your lover’s house at 2am to see if there’s a strange car in the driveway or hacking into their email to see whom they’ve been chatting with.
But there’s a light at the end of this tunnel! You’re not stuck at the Alone and Miserable bar forever. In fact, once you become aware of the things you’re doing to sabotage your relationships, you can work toward stopping those behaviors and saying goodbye to Alone and Miserable and hello to Happy and Attached.
What Are You Afraid Of In This Relationship?
Find your fears. Do you have any deep-seated beliefs about love relationships that have influenced how you view this one?
Do you love yourself? Are your fears based on current facts or speculations based on horrible past relationships? Are you engaging in \”Worst Case Scenario\” thinking? What usually motivates you to start acting crazy and doing self-destructive things? Do you feel better after doing them or worse? (Most likely, you feel worse and have only exacerbated the problem! Does that tell you anything?)
Look Inside
Are you causing the problems in your relationship? It’s a tough question. A lot of people have problems admitting when they are the one in the wrong.
Think about the bad experiences you had in your relationship. Did they all start after you triggered them?
For example, did you always fight when you were drunk? Did arguments start up because you wanted to wake her for sex at 3am when she had to be at work by 7? Do you throw a fit when he forgets to take out the garbage?
Ouch. Maybe you are the problem.
It doesn’t make you a horrible person. (Okay, it might, but even horrible people can learn from their mistakes and become better!)
Remember that humans are very easily conditioned to behave in certain ways based on their past experiences. (If you remember back to Psychology class, there was that guy Pavlov who conditioned dogs to drool at the sound of a bell. It’s the same for you except you’ve conditioned yourself to freak out and get super possessive whenever you’re in love. Personally, I’d rather drool.)
You can totally re-condition yourself to avoid these relationship destruction tendencies! It will take a while and it will take being 100% honest with yourself, but it’s do-able.
The key is to focus on the moment. Do not project thoughts into the future or drag up memories of the past. Live in the right now.
It might be time to seek help so you can work out your emotions with someone who has helped others through similar problems. It may seem like an impossible dream, but if you fix yourself, you could very well salvage a relationship you thought was doomed.
About The Author:
Written by James Kern. In his video series, he goes through 7 super-ninja ways to open up the lines of communication to get your ex back. Visit http://www.backtogetherforever.com/ to get your free \”Magnetic Communication CD\” posted out to you today.
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Why A Girl Doesn’t Really Need An Engagement Ring
My husband and I didn’t have an overly romantic proposal scenario. We were discussing the possibility of moving in together, and I informed him that my parents would likely demand to know what his \”intentions\” were. Being the good sport he is, he agreed to a dinner out with these parents of his only-child girlfriend knowing that this dreaded question would arise. When it did, he responded with the one phrase I’d begged him not to utter:
\”Well, Sir. I’d like to make an honest woman out of your daughter.\” He glanced at my beet-red face, cleared this throat, and clarified, \”What I mean is, if you and your wife approve, is that I’d like to marry her.\” My Dad smiled and shook my (at that point) very shaken boyfriend’s hand and said, \”We give your our blessings.\” I looked at my Mom. \”You too?\” She nodded with tears in her eyes. \”Me too,\” she said.
As we walked to our respective cars, my parents hugged me and told me how happy they were for me. I responded, \”Don’t get too excited, you guys, he hasn’t asked me, yet.\”
Once my then-boyfriend, now-husband and I were in the car on the way back to our respective apartments, he asked me what I meant by what I said to my parents. I looked at him incredulously. Since he looked genuinely puzzled and not the least malicious, I gently said, \”You haven’t, at least not technically, asked me yet. Therefore, we are not ‘engaged.’\” He frowned, then looked a little embarrassed, then said, \”Well, I don’t have a ring. I want to be engaged to you, but I can’t afford to buy you a ring.\” Frustrated, I said, \”You don’t have to have a ring to propose to me.\”
He looked surprised, then confused, and said, \”I don’t?\” \”No!\” I exclaimed. Then he said, in a not entirely quiet tone of voice, \”Well, then do you want to marry me?\” \”Sure,\” I said back, with the same amount of not entirely quiet in my voice. \”Great,\” he said, \”I’m going to call my mother.\”
The big question in lights at the ballpark, it wasn’t. Down on one knee with romantic music playing in the background and little winged Cupids shooting their love arrows through everyone lucky enough to feast their eyes upon the most romantic proposal ever… it wasn’t. But it was how I got engaged, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Obviously, the statement I made to my future husband was a little controversial. I honestly didn’t even think about it at the time, but I’ve been informed since then that I should not have, under any circumstances, let my fella off the hook without buying me some sort of engagement ring. I didn’t even have to be a BIG diamond, they say. It didn’t really need to cost three months salary, they say. You know what I say? I loved this man, he loved me back, and if he wanted to get married to me I certainly wasn’t going to make him shell out a bunch of cash for a engagement ring before we could start planning our life together.
Billy Crystal, in the movie When Harry Met Sally, says to Meg Ryan, \”When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.\” I wholeheartedly agreed with that sentiment. I told my new fianc
The Increasing Divorce Rate Is The Fault Of Our Throw-Away Society
Too many people feel that it is better to be in an unhappy relationship than to be alone. We as a society put to much emphasis on the joy a romantic relationship can bring and not enough emphasis on being happy with one’s self.
What people so often forget is that dating is a means to an end, marriage.
Dating is not a substitute for true friendships. Relying on one person for all of your emotional and sexual needs is setting yourself up for failure. To hear some people tell the story, dating and romantic relationships are supposed to prepare a person for marriage – and yet people often begin dating at around twelve and marry in their late twenties. This leaves far too much time to date and not take the process seriously.
There is a fundamental problem here.
Relationships in the early teens to the early are treated as disposable, in fact parents tend to demand that teen relationships should be treated as disposable relationships. One is expected to spend large quantities of time and invest many emotions into a relationship that is never meant to last. This teaches people that when things get too difficult, just throw it all away and walk out on the problems that may exist in the relationship. If it is to hard to stay in a relationship during the difficulties of high school life, then what will happen during adult relationships, when the rent is late and one party loses a job?
Being in a series of one- to three-year relationships does not prepare a person for real commitment.
Another flaw of the current dating system is the idea of co-habitation. This is supposed to allow people to \”test drive\” their future marriage partner. The problem here is that one person’s idea of the commitment level might differ vastly from the other’s.
Many couples in college decide to live together as a way to save money and to get sex on a regular basis. This is a horrible idea. One person might believe that they will marry and live happily together after graduation while the other sees it as merely convenient in the moment.
The less committed person is often forced into incredibly difficult situations. For instance, the less committed party falls in love with some one else. If he was not living with the other person, he could simply break off the relationship and pursue the other prospect, but since he co-habitats he cannot easily leave. He is therefore more inclined to continue to live with a person who he will begin to dislike progressively more.
The live-in girlfriend will become confused about why her once somewhat loving boyfriend has become increasingly distant and the new love interest might be tempted to forget about the boy purely because it appears he cannot or will not leave his current relationship. No one is the better because of this situation, and it leaves everyone confused and heartbroken.
If the boy had simply been encouraged to not live with another person until he was certain of his intentions then the whole situation could have been avoided.
Recently, many people have come up with reasons as to why the divorce rate is as high as it is. The explanation has nothing to do with religious beliefs or anything else. It is simple. People are trained from the time they are preteens and for 15 years after that to treat their romantic partners as disposable sources of emotional support and pleasure.
If marriage is to be taken seriously, then dating, the path to marriage, must be treated with equal respect. If, as parents, you seek to raise emotionally-stable children and emotionally-mature adults, then you should encourage your children to take those teen romances seriously. Teach your children that the childhood romance should be treated with the utmost respect, just as you would expect a marriage to be treated with the utmost respect.
About The Author:
Abbigail Nabors works as a church secretary and writes in her spare time. If you are looking for advice to help you through the divorce process, our website provides helpful relationship and divorce advice for both men and women: http://www.divorcethinktank.com/blog/
Your Marriage Can Be Saved, If You Are The Source Of The Communication Problems
The leading cause of divorce in the United States today is marriage – always has been, and always will be. But joking aside, one of the leading causes of divorce is the unwillingness to communicate or listen to one another.
After a tough day with the kids or a tight financial pay period, people begin to get stressed out. Couples that are going to survive are those who are willing to talk to their spouse and console their fears and concerns.
Those who are unwilling to discuss the matters that stress out the other party, often find their marriage on the road to ruin.
If you are the one who is unwilling to listen to your significant other, the fact that you are reading this article indicates that you still have a desire to repair what ails your marriage and to save it from the perils of divorce.
If the other party is the one who has shut you out of the communication cycle, there is not much you will be able to do, if they remain steadfast in their resolve to shut you out of their lives.
No marriage can survive a lack of communication – pure and simple.
You and your significant other must be able to communicate with one another, and you must be willing to console one another during times of stress.
It is just human nature. Marriage is about more than just the human touch, but also the human experience – to share our lives with someone who is able to acknowledge our importance in their lives. We need the human touch, but we also need the comfort of another who cares about us, as much as we care about them.
People deal with stressful situations differently. Some strike out in rage, while others metaphorically curl up into a ball, in an effort to escape the troubles of the world.
Those are two extremes of the human condition, both of which are unhealthy in a relationship.
If it is you that has cut off your spouse to the needed communication to maintain a healthy relationship, then it is up to you to fix your marriage, to open yourself up to being the person your significant other needs you to be.
More valuable than money and jewels, open and committed communication is the essential element that a marriage needs to remain strong and healthy.
In fact, open communication is just one part of the scenario. More than open communication, people need you to be willing and able to listen to their worries and fears.
Sometimes the best form of communication will involve you keeping your mouth shut, and being the \”interested ear\” that your significant other needs to be able to feel consoled and important to you.
The greatest gift you will be able to give others is the willingness to \”listen\”.
For most people on the planet, the most important sound they want to hear is the sound of their own voice. If you open your mouth to interject, then you are telling the other person that want to be more important than they are, and it is often a sure way to ruin the perfect experience.
If you can simply sit and listen to your significant other say what is on his or her mind, without allowing yourself to interrupt or interject your own opinion, then you will win the heart and soul of the person sitting next to you or across the table.
It is kind of funny, but sometimes when we sit to talk to someone, they control the entire conversation, not allowing us to add to the conversation. Yet, many of those people will leave the experience convinced that you are the most interesting person they had met in some time, although you never got a word in edgewise.
If you look back to when you dated your spouse, if you think back to the good times, you might just realize that what I say is true. The only thing that has changed between when you fell in love and now, is that now, one of you has stopped participating in the discussion – the willingness to give the other what they want and need in the conversation.
About The Author:
Donny Prentice writes about divorce and relationships. Most marriages do not need to end in divorce. But, if your marriage cannot be saved, then please prepare yourself to survive the divorce process with your finances and child custody arrangements in your favor or on equal footing with your spouse. If you are looking for advice to help you through the divorce process, our website provides helpful advice for both men and women, facing divorce: http://www.divorcethinktank.com/blog/
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When A Strong Woman Can Make You A Better Man
Behind every man, there is a strong women.
After my recent split with my girlfriend of two years I have found myself thinking how much I have changed. At first, I just thought I was only different around her, but now I seem to be a totally different person.
Does being in such a serious relationship make a man change? Obviously spending a lengthy period of time with anyone will change a certain aspect of your life, whether it be something trivial, your fashion sense or in my case my masculinity.
I believe I was so infatuated with this woman, and I spent so much time with her that I actually became \”One of the girls\”. At first I guess it sounds pretty bad, but really its not. The easiest way to have an understanding of women is to spend time with them, hang out with them. You pick up their habits and every women wants a man to go watch a chick-flick with them, and not with someone who is going to pretend to be interested.
Picking up a female’s habits are really not that bad though, you might find yourself talking to her about hair and clothes, but the first thing you will notice is that you actually do take much better care of yourself, and you have become a lot more polite. These are the most obvious and the beginning signs that she is starting to \”mold\” you.
Whether a women wants to admit it or not, when they are in a relationship with a man, they see us for what we are and then they see the potential. They like to change a man to make him more attractive, for their pleasure and maybe their reputation… I don’t know, but its true.
You will find yourself dressing in clothes that she has picked for you which \”improve\” your appearance, but do they? I doubt that there is one guy out there who hasn’t received a bad present from a partner, the majority of these will be clothes, matching jumpers, bright shirts, floral patterns and the dreaded skinny jeans.
I used to be a long haired surfer dude, (who couldn’t surf), and now with the \”guidance\” of that special lady I have short neat hair, and I guess you could say I dress preppy. Huge transformation?
Well I can let you into a secret, most men can – but a lot of us can’t – learn how to say no! Tell her enough is enough, unless you want to change.
Think of it this way, the A-list celebs we all see on TV don’t pick their own clothes, they have personal shoppers – women they pay to tell them what to wear! And us the lucky guys have it free.
I’m not just saying that women control what we wear, they also control what we eat, our mannerisms and the way we look at other women. Well done girls!
I can honestly say some women have such power to make a man look at the floor when a hot women walks into the room! I know this because I was with a very \”powerful\” woman.
But if you know how to control it you can avoid it, and another secret women think we don’t know is that they indirectly use sex as a weapon. Think of that however you might, but it’s true. Women control us, and we let them, and we love them for doing it. It does make us better people, and we love them for it.
One day women will rule the world, although at the moment it may be from behind the scenes. Either way, no man will ever be more powerful, than the woman who made him.
About The Author:
Coalton Reynolds writes about dating and relationships. If you are exploring the online adult dating scene, you may want to consider http://www.nsadatingsite.com/ due to its large membership base of people looking for relationships of all kinds.
Carry a TASER(r) C2 Stun Gun and Never Be Scared Again
If you are tired of being afraid because of rising crimes like rape and brutal assaults, arm yourself with a TASER C2 stun gun to protect you and your loved ones. Compact and easy to carry, they are self-defense electronic devices that will stop an attacker up to 15 feet away – that puts ample space between you and the assailant allowing you a safe distance to escape. Should a close encounter deem it necessary to use force, they also double as a contact stun gun to ward off an attack.
TASER technology provides one of the only non-lethal means of stopping an attacker dead in his tracks, even if that person is under the influence of drugs or alcohol. When you are dealing with an out-of-control aggressor, it’s not always possible to aim for the face. A TASER C2 stun gun can be conveniently discharged to work anywhere on the body of your attacker, so you don’t have to aim for one particular area. This makes the TASER(r) C2 a more effective self-defense option during an already stressful situation.
The TASER C2 stun gun works by adding a lot of electrical confusion to the nervous system: the electricity is delivered at a high voltage but low amperage, and can disable a human in seconds. Interfering with the body’s electrical signals, the initial effect is interpreted as pain; however, muscle spasms, confusion, and inability to control movement quickly follow. The brain becomes incapable of interpreting the nerve impulses it’s receiving and is unable to send out meaningful impulses to the rest of the body.
TASER devices have been used effectively in law enforcement encounters by over 10,000 police agencies in over 4 countries. Nearly 100% effective, the TASER(r) combines stun technology with a quantum leap in stopping power via Electro-Muscular Disruption or EMD technology.
Normal law-abiding citizens should have no problem acquiring this highly effective tool for self-protection purposes. However, to further promote responsible ownership, the TASER(r) C2 stun gun will only function after the owner completes a background check through the manufacturer to prevent misuse. As always, purchasers MUST be 18 years old or older.
TASER(r) C2 cartridges also have a unique serial number and are equipped with an Anti-Felon Identification system, which discharges 20-30 serialized paper tags when deployed. Law enforcement can later retrieve this confetti from the scene and contact TASER(r) International to get the name of the owner of the TASER(r) device, allowing police to track any potential misuse.
If the TASER(r) C2 stun gun is used in self defense, it can be deployed and left behind attached to and incapacitating the attacker while you get away. If you are forced to leave your TASER(r) behind, most companies will replace your unit free of charge. Check with your merchant to see if he offers this free replacement offer. More than likely, you’ll need to get a copy of the police report documenting the incident and send it to the company that you purchased it from.
About The Author:
Written by Gerald Urban, a specialist in self-protection technology. You may think that you do not need his products, but bad guys never give us advanced notice of when you or a family member will need to be prepared against an attack. Don’t wait to think about self-protection after an assault. Think about it now, and take action to defend yourself and protect your family today. Gerald owns http://www.urbansafetysolutions.com/ and http://www.urbanspycam.com/
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5 Tips for Planning a Staycation
Taking all of your vacation days is an important component of your peak performance at home and work. Vacations allow you to disconnect from your regular routine and then return rested and rejuvenated. If money or time is tight, a staycation is a great alternative to a traditional vacation. A staycation is simply a vacation taken at home. Following a few simple tips, you can enjoy the benefits of a holiday without having to pack your suitcase.
Here are 5 tips to make your staycation a success:
1. Be Enthusiastic
Your attitude about a staycation is critical to its success. If you are thinking that it is a second class version of the \”real thing\”, then you will likely be somewhat unsatisfied with the experience. Decide what you want the focus of your staycation to be: relaxation, adventure, recreation, culture. Ask yourself what you want to get out of your time off. Consider what you like best about a traditional vacation and include that aspect in your planning.
2. Plan Your Itinerary
Lack of planning is one of the biggest reasons people are disappointed with a staycation. Think about the amount of planning that goes into a traditional vacation. Put the same amount of energy into planning this time off. Create an itinerary. Decide what activities you’d like to do, local attractions you might like to visit, or events you might like to attend.
3. Prepare Ahead
Lack of preparation is the other big reason people find staycations disappointing. The important thing to avoid is blurring the lines between regular household chores and your time off. Be strict about not picking away at your list of undone house jobs. Just like a traditional vacation, take care of tasks around the house ahead of time: tidy things up, stock up the refrigerator if you’ll be eating at home, do the laundry.
4. Unplug From Work
The best way to get a break from work is to actually take a break, so unplug from the office during your staycation. Tell people you are going on holidays, create an absence message for your voicemail and email, leave your blackberry in the drawer. These suggestions apply to traditional vacations as well!
5. Treat It Like A Vacation
Approach your staycation in the same way you would a traditional vacation. Plan a start and end date. Take photos. Try new things. Visit different restaurants.
About The Author:
Laurel Vespi, certified life coach is best known as a masterful coach and sought after public speaker. She’s passionate about teaching people how to stop waiting and start living a fun, satisfying and on fire life. Get Laurel’s FREE report on Blissful Living at: http://www.stonecirclecoaching.com
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