10 Easy Steps to Feeling Fabulous!
The most important thing you can ever do for yourself and for your love life is to feel fabulous.
Over the years of helping women learn to feel fabulous, I realized there are 10 steps you have to take in order to truly feel it. Before I tell you the 10 steps, I want to first share with you what being fabulous really means and what gets in the way of it. This way the steps will make sense.
You are Fabulous! Yes, you really are. I’m not talking about the ego’s idea – the false sense of being fabulous. I’m talking about the whole of you: your essence, your heart, your spirit and your body. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. That means you come from Source – loving, pure positive energy. That means you are Source energy – loving, pure positive energy – in physical form.
What is being fabulous? It’s an inner knowing of your worth, value, beauty, goodness, sensuality, passion, kindness, compassionate, love and joy. It’s trusting yourself and Source. It’s surrendering. It’s honoring all the qualities and values you brought into this lifetime.
When you embrace your fabulousness – your life is filled, on a daily basis, with love and joy.
When you realize you are fabulous, you become an irresistible magnet. Men love a woman who truly lives in her fabulousness.
When you know it and exude it, men want to be around you – a lot. They don’t care what size you are, how old you are or what you wear.
What Gets In The Way Of Feeling Fabulous
The ego or self-critical voice gets in the way.
The key to realizing you’re fabulous is to quiet the ego that criticizes you. When you listen to ANY self-criticism, you can’t feel fabulous. So if you criticize your legs, or your level of education, or your upbringing, or the school you didn’t go to, or your energy level – you are cutting yourself off from your fabulousness.
Why would you do that? Is it habit? Because so many women do it, that it feels familiar? Because you think the criticisms are true?
Well, they are all lies. Any criticism about yourself is a lie.
There may be things you want to change about yourself. If you can do that now, great. Change them. Lose or gain weight, get more education, learn to sing or dance, tone your muscles, whatever you want to do, just go do it.
Stop complaining and get moving. The cost of complaining is exorbitant. The cost is love. I know, I did it for years. And then when I stopped I had to learn to stop criticizing myself for having criticized myself in the past. Oh the ego is ruthless and tricky! Thank goodness my heart and soul won out over my ego.
And whatever you do, don’t expect a man to help you get over your criticisms. They can’t, they don’t know how and it’s not their job. It’s yours.
Remember, stop criticizing yourself. It’s keeping you from love.
In your heart and soul is all the love and joy you came in with as a baby and somewhere along the line got disconnected from. It’s not hard work to get back in touch with it, but you have to be willing to do some things.
The 3 areas of your life – physical, mental and spiritual – have to all be worked on to feel fabulous. I’ve written out the 10 necessary steps below.
10 Daily Steps to Feel Great About Yourself and Life
For lasting results you’ll want to do all of these steps. I help women every day feel fabulous. So don’t play small or complain or listen to your excuses. Just do these 10 steps. They’re simple and easy. Honestly you’ll be thrilled with the results.
1. Before you get out of bed start each day with 5 minutes of gratitude. Find 3 things that put a smile on your face. It might be your warm bed, your pet, a good friend, a new pair of shoes you bought, anything.
2. Read three to five pages of an inspirational book. I love Wayne Dyer, Esther and Jerry Hicks Abraham books, Don Miguel Ruiz, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, James Redfield, Byron Katie. I could go on and on. I would start with \”The Power of Intention\” by Wayne Dyer, then read \”The Vortex\” by Esther Hicks.
3. During the day, get some exercise. Every day. Something, even if it’s just stretching in front of the TV. Move your body. Put on some music and dance for 10 minutes. Move your body. You’ll feel physically good. Build up to 30 minutes or more a day.
4. Eat healthy foods and, most importantly, slowly eat SMALL portions. People always wonder why I’m slim. I eat what I want, including a cookie every day, but I don’t eat a lot at any one time. Remember food is fuel and you need it during the day. Breakfast is crucial – it’s your fuel for the first part of the day. Then you won’t overeat at lunch or snack on high sugar foods.
5. Also during the day, take some quiet time. The ideal would be to meditate – which is just time to get free of the resistance the mind creates. Put on a relaxing CD and give yourself permission to relax – 10 to 15 minutes will make a difference.
6. Wear clothes that you feel fabulous in. Don’t put on anything that you don’t feel fabulous in – give those clothes away. You ever notice when you go on vacation you tend to take your favorite clothes. You rarely take something you don’t like. So don’t wear those clothes at home.
7. Shift negative thoughts or perspective to positive ones. You actually choose how you’re going to look at your life and your challenges. It’s a choice. So if you notice you tend to be fearful, choose to let it go and trust all will be well. A belief is a thought that you keep thinking. So to change your beliefs, stop thinking negative thoughts and start thinking positive ones. If you want more help with this, I like the Focus Wheel technique in the book \”Ask And It’s Given\” by Esther Hicks.
8. Then, make sure every day you give love to someone. Could be a cat or dog, your friend, neighbor, spouse, boyfriend, anyone. This will put you in the consciousness of love. It’s crucial for your heart and soul.
9. And every day, give love to yourself. Just imagine filling your heart and every cell of your body with loving energy for yourself.
10. At the end of the day, before you go to sleep, end your day, as you started it, by being grateful. Spend a few minutes before you drift off to sleep verbalizing what you are grateful for today.
I guarantee you if you do EVERY one of these things for 30 days, you will significantly shift the way you feel about yourself. You will start to feel fabulous. Keep it up for 3 months and you won’t even recognize yourself. You will feel like a Goddess.
Imagine feeling fabulous every day. If you start tomorrow doing all the things I recommend, you will feel great about yourself from now on.
Choose to be willing to feel fabulous and become irresistible. Choose to do the steps to feel fabulous for the sake of the absolute joy of feeling like a Goddess for the rest of your life.
Imagine the possibilities…
Carol Chanel
About The Author:
Carol Chanel is a Certified Life Coach who works with women to feel fabulous, attract lasting, loving relationships and create joyful and inspiring lives. To learn to feel fabulous, Carol has a \”Feeling Fabulous Program\” that teaches you to feel fabulous, reveal the irresistible you and attract lasting love. You can get information about this program by going to her website and clicking in the \”Feeling Fabulous Program\” box. http://www.carolchanel.com/
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Why I Don’t Trust Gurus
When I was around the age of 21 or 22 I bought some rust-bucket of an old car and decided to take a visit to Byron Bay.
And when I got there, I felt great. The sun. The lifestyle. It was awesome and Byron Bay has quite a magical feel to it.
And then I fell into this group which was based around some passive Indian teachings which where all of his followers (including me) were walking around saying \”It doesn’t matter\” and \”you are that\” and all sorts of other nonsense.
Now don’t get me wrong, just like any spiritual group, this guy did have some good things to say.
But I grew to hate the group dynamic.
The way everyone believed what everyone else believed. The way everyone hung on this guys words because they thought he was \”enlightened.\”
I look back at this stage of my life as a big learning experience… a seeking for something deeper… a time when I trusted others above myself.
And it felt awful.
In fact, I can remember a defining moment over that time when I heard this ‘gooroo’ say \”there is no free will.\”
My heart sank.
My stomach twisted.
And the life inside me was slowly sucked out like a tube with blood draining out of my heart directly into the drain.
And this emotional reaction turned into the physical.
I ended up with glandular fever. I got very, very, very tired. I ended up having to go back to my dad’s house in Coffs Harbour to rest for months.
It was horrible.
And that’s why I loved the quote I saw on twitter from my friend Niro (who really is my friend – @myfriendniro – met him years ago at a Brad Sugars seminar) recently when he said…
\”I have noticed even people who claim everything is predestined look before they cross the road\”
My girlfriend at the time, who was a passionate, loving German girl… insisted it was true (about no free will)… and I couldn’t remain with her. It would have been like marrying someone from a religion you totally disbelieved in.
Anyway, I eventually got my health back when I stopped believing in all of this and I started trusting myself. Started listening to my own \”gut instinct.\” Began tappping into my own inner wisdom.
That was a turning point in my life – it’s also why I cannot stand gurus.
And ever since then I have found when I tap into my own inner guidance… and listen to my heart… the right guidance comes.
But when I try and listen to social mores… what should be done… or follow someone elses path, it doesn’t feel right and doesn’t work out.
And this \”gut feeling\” and \”listening to yourself\” works in business the same way it does in any other area of your life.
For instance, when I started writing these emails and building my email list many years ago, I had a strong gut feeling it would pay off.
I also have strong hunches about certain clients… about which courses and programs to buy in order to take my business to the next level… about who’s advice to listen to.
And I find that when I follow this advice, things run smoothly.
So listen to your hunches today and reap the rewards.
About The Author:
Scott Bywater is a direct response copywriter and the author of \”Cash Flow Advertising\” and \”More Customers Made Easy\”. Although Scott is accepting very few clients, he generously shares his experience on copywriting at his web site at http://www.copywritingthatsells.com.au/
Think Like a Bamboo Plant
Following my email yesterday about the myth of creating untold wealth quickly and without effort, I received a great email from one of my clients, Nick Lockhart from MRD (who has a fantastic newsletter about property investing) …
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Hi Scott,
How true. Let me add that we will either live with the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret.
We get the choice when it comes to which pain we experience, but there is no choice to avoid it.
Have a great week.
Nick
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Well, I couldn’t agree more with Nick’s comments – discipline truly is the key to success.
Yet here’s where it gets tricky.
What do you do when you are going through the \”pain of discipline\” and not seeing any results.
Well, in order to explain this, let’s look at the bamboo plant for a moment.
When initially planted, it doesn’t seem to do much for the first few years.
Everything is happening underground. It’s putting out stems and everything is occurring underground.
As you can imagine, it would be easy to become despondent while growing a bamboo plant.
But here’s what happens once it shoots above the soil and sees the light.
It becomes the fastest growing woody plant on this planet. In fact, one species grows by as much as one metre per day – you can virtually watch it grow.
And it often grows many metres in just a few weeks.
So what’s the lesson here?
Not only do we need to be disciplined, we also need to be patient.
We need to invest in the future of our business… knowledge… marketing… systems… relationships…
with the vision of a bamboo plant, knowing that although we may not see the fruits of our labour immediately, if we water our \”inner plants\” on a regular basis, eventually we will get the exponential growth we are looking for.
About The Author:
Scott Bywater is an income boosting, results focused direct response copywriter and the author of Cashflow Advertising and More Customers Made Easy. His popular ebook \”7 ways to get more customers\” has been downloaded by over 8,247 business owners over the past five years. You can get your hands on it by heading on over to http://www.copywritingthatsells.com.au/
Happy Holidays (Hold Onto The Slippery Fish)
I nearly died yesterday.
I was walking across the road and a P plater came flying down the road well over the speed limit and nearly collected me.
In fact, if I hadn’t looked up and stopped at the exact time I did, I might not be writing this message to you today.
Admittedly, I was walking while on my mobile phone and not paying as much attention to what I was doing as I should have been.
Now that’s not the normal way you would open up a Christmas message, but I think it’s really important for all of us to pay attention, particularly at this time.
Because things really can happen in an instant, can’t they?
Every year, we hear stories about babies and toddlers falling into swimming pools – it happens in an instant – and it’s devastating.
Every year, dozens of people die from car accidents which could have been avoided, particularly over this period.
More couples break up over the holiday periods.
And more people see psychologists and counselors over this period.
So pay attention to what you are doing. Stay present and in the moment. And stay safe.
Ok, now that I have got my safety message out of the way, let me tell you what I love about this period and how taking time out and enjoying yourself can even help you improve your business.
Personally, I love this time of the year because it gives me a chance to catch up with family and friends… to reflect… to give… and to have some downtime.
I will personally be away from lunchtime today until the 11th January, so it should be a nice break with lots of visits to the beach with my family… a few days in Darling Harbour showing my \”little man\” all the theme parks… and an opportunity to get plenty of the vitamin D from the sun.
I want to finish the year by saying a big thank you to everyone who has sent me emails throughout the year… to everyone who has invested in my products… to everyone who has shared a little of themselves… and to everyone who has taken the words I have shared and implemented them in their lives.
I may not have the time to respond to every email I receive, but I can tell you personally that I LOVE RECEIVING them and I LOVE WRITING THESE EMAILS.
And you can be certain that there will be more great ideas coming your way in January.
I heard a year or two ago that Bill Gates used to feel guilty about taking time off for holidays.
Until he started to think of this time as creative time for your brain to come up with ideas.
Now I don’t feel guilty about taking holidays. In my view, we all need recovery times, especially those of us in business who work so hard week in and week out.
But I am aware of the fact that when you take time off, when you relax and chill out… you go into what’s called your ‘alpha’ brain waves and ideas come to you.
So make sure you carry around a little notepad with you over the holidays because ideas can be like slippery fish – you gotta catch them while you can.
About The Author:
Scott Bywater is a direct mail copywriter and the author of Cash-Flow Advertising. To get access to his highly prized complimentary copy of ‘7 Ways To Get More Customers\” (valued at $29.95) and to join his controversial and insighful \”Copywriting Selling Secrets\” newsletter where you’ll uncover the truth about why most ads and sales letters don’t work (and how to make yours stand out from the rest) head on over to his web site at http://www.copywritingthatsells.com.au/
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Please Hear What I’m NOT Saying
Up until – probably the last 5 years – I always tried to pretend like I was perfect.
How are you Scott?
I’m fine. Doing great.
What’s happening?
Just really busy. Doing this. Doing that. It’s all good.
In short, I would try and hold everything I could from those around me in order to appear as if everything was perfect.
I wouldn’t share parts of myself.
I would try to keep it a secret.
But over the last couple of years, I’ve decided that doesn’t serve me or anyone else.
And that’s why, particularly over the last year or two, I’ve started to be more open.
I’ve shared stories about my struggles at the beginning of my business. I’ve told stories about my experiences in cults… with gurus… about moving schools and suffering through bullying as a teenager.
It’s stuff I would have never shared in the past.
But you know what happens when you do stuff like this?
I’ve found that people don’t rub it in your face… they actually begin to connect with the real you more.
Why? Well, when I was at a very well respected recruitment firm in my early 20’s I think I shocked everyone (including myself) when as I was leaving as I read out the following poem:
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Don’t be fooled by me.
Don’t be fooled by the face I wear
for I wear a mask, a thousand masks,
masks that I’m afraid to take off,
and none of them is me.
Pretending is an art that’s second nature with me, but don’t be fooled, for God’s sake don’t be fooled.
I give you the impression that I’m secure,
that all is sunny and unruffled with me,
within as well as without,
that confidence is my name and coolness my game,
that the water’s calm and I’m in command
and that I need no one,
but don’t believe me.
My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask,
ever-varying and ever-concealing.
Beneath lies no complacence.
Beneath lies confusion, and fear, and aloneness.
But I hide this. I don’t want anybody to know it.
I panic at the thought of my weakness exposed.
That’s why I frantically create a mask to hide behind,
a nonchalant sophisticated facade,
to help me pretend,
to shield me from the glance that knows.
But such a glance is precisely my salvation,
my only hope,
and I know it.
That is, if it’s followed by acceptance,
if it’s followed by love.
It’s the only thing that can liberate me from myself,
from my own self-built prison walls,
from the barriers I so painstakingly erect.
It’s the only thing that will assure me
of what I can’t assure myself,
that I’m really worth something.
But I don’t tell you this. I don’t dare to,
I’m afraid to.
I’m afraid your glance will not be followed by acceptance,
will not be followed by love.
I’m afraid you’ll think less of me,
that you’ll laugh, and your laugh would kill me.
I’m afraid that deep-down I’m nothing
and that you will see this and reject me.
So I play my game, my desperate pretending game,
with a facade of assurance without and a trembling child within.
So begins the glittering but empty parade of masks,
and my life becomes a front.
I idly chatter to you in the suave tones of surface talk.
I tell you everything that’s really nothing,
and nothing of what’s everything,
of what’s crying within me.
So when I’m going through my routine
do not be fooled by what I’m saying.
Please listen carefully and try to hear what I’m not saying,
what I’d like to be able to say,
what for survival I need to say,
but what I can’t say.
I don’t like hiding.
I don’t like playing superficial phony games.
I want to stop playing them.I want to be genuine
and spontaneous and me
but you’ve got to help me.
You’ve got to hold out your hand
even when that’s the last thing I seem to want.
Only you can wipe away from my eyes
the blank stare of the breathing dead.
Only you can call me into aliveness.
Each time you’re kind, and gentle, and encouraging,
each time you try to understand because you really care,
my heart begins to grow wings-
very small wings,
very feeble wings,
but wings!
With your power to touch me into feeling you can breathe life into me.
I want you to know that.
I want you to know how important you are to me,
how you can be a creator-an honest-to-God creator-
of the person that is me
if you choose to.
You alone can break down the wall behind which I tremble,
you alone can remove my mask,
you alone can release me from my shadow-world of panic,
from my lonely prison,
if you choose to.
Please choose to.
Do not pass me by.
It will not be easy for you.
A long conviction of worthlessness builds strong walls.
The nearer you approach to me
the blinder I may strike back.
It’s irrational, but despite what the books say about man
often I am irrational.
I fight against the very thing I cry out for.
But I am told that love is stronger than strong walls
and in this lies my hope.
Please try to beat down those walls
with firm hands but with gentle hands
for a child is very sensitive.
Who am I, you may wonder?
I am someone you know very well.
For I am every man you meet
and I am every woman you meet.
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This poem is called \”please hear what I’m not saying\” and was actually written by Charles C. Finn in September of 1966. Personally, I think there’s something we can learn from it as human beings and as marketers.
Remember, nobody is perfect. So when we try to pretend we are perfect we don’t endear ourselves to anyone.
But when we start to break down the shackles, and quite simply be ourselves… warts and all… our friends, our family, and our customers respond to this warmly.
About The Author:
Scott Bywater is an income boosting, results focused direct response copywriter and the author of Cashflow Advertising and More Customers Made Easy. His popular ebook \”7 ways to get more customers\” has been downloaded by over 8,247 business owners over the past five years. You can get your hands on it by heading on over to http://www.copywritingthatsells.com.au/
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Which Road Will You Take Over Christmas?
With the festive season upon us, there is going to be a lot more junk food for us to feed our bodies over the coming weeks.
You name it and you can probably eat it.
And one of the things about junk food is it feels SO GOOD as we are chewing… enjoying the taste… and allowing it to pass into our bodies.
But there are side effects, aren’t there?
We feel like crap afterwards. We stack on the weight. And we leave our body more open for disease. Not to mention the long term effects which sugar (some people refer to it as white poison) has on our bodies.
Bottom line is 99% of the population will still feast on all the goodies this Xmas despite all of this.
I have certainly had my fair share over the last couple of weeks.
So why do we do it?
One reason: short term pleasure.
You see, the results we achieve short term are often very different than what we achieve long term.
For instance…
– It feels so good to sleep in. But it also means you miss out on being the early bird that catches the worm and giving your business the extra time it needs to thrive.
– It’s always attractive to get distracted when we are focusing on something important at work. It gives us short term pleasure to check our emails, jump onto facebook or whatever.
But it also means we miss out on the long term benefits of focusing on the things which are most important.
– It gives us a greater deal of short term pleasure not to exercise and just sit in front of the television instead.
But the long term benefits of exercise are well documented. As for the long term benefits of sitting in front of the TV????
So which are you going to choose?
Short term pleasure and long term pain.
Or short term pain and long term pleasure.
The two do not always go hand in hand.
For most people, there is a certain amount of pain in investing money to improve their education and knowledge.
But I’m sure you’ll agree the long term effect of not having enough customers is certainly more painful.
About The Author:
Scott Bywater is a successful direct response copywriter and heads up Copywriting That Sells, a direct response advertising firm. Want to learn how to get more customers – then get your hands on his popular 17 page ebook \”7 ways To Increase Your Turnover… No Matter What The State Of The Economy.\” It’s been downloaded by over 8,247 business owners over the past five years and you can get your hands on it now at http://www.copywritingthatsells.com.au/
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Online Dating Is Easy, But Successful Relationships Require Hard Work
My nineteenth anniversary will be here in a week and a half.
So what’s so exceptional about that in Mormon Utah? Just this: I have a mail-order husband. He has a mail-order bride.
Nineteen years ago, there weren’t any dating sites online; in fact, there wasn’t any online to put them on.
So I bought a copy of the Mensa directory and went systematically through every male in the book, looking at the coded information for men within five years one way or the other of my age, widowed or divorced (because a man who is 40 and has never married has something wrong with him), shared my religion, shared at least three interests, and was in biorhythm sync with me at lest half the time.
I wound up with ten names.
I prepared letters to each of them and, despite my fourteen-year-old daughter’s \”Mom, you’re not going to MAIL those letters. MOM, you’re not going to mail those letters. Mom, you’re NOT going to mail those letters,\” I mailed them.
I got four responses: a gay man, a man who had been excommunicated for being caught in bed with his sister-in-law, a teacher who had been in the Peace Corps in Africa and wanted to go back to Africa and \”Gee, you must make a lot of money writing mysteries.\” The fourth was Tom.
I sat down in the living room laughing as I read the letter from Tom.
When my father asked what was so funny, I said, \”Daddy, I think I’m going to marry this man.\”
Ten years ago online dating services still weren’t available.
But my favorite college student, out of all the students I taught, met a man from Australia on a science fiction website. They were married five months later. Heidi moved to Australia and so far, has lived happily ever after. I met her husband a few months ago, and I think she’s going to continue to live happily ever after.
Two years ago, online dating services were going great guns. A neighbor of ours, getting ready to move to Alaska and knowing the male-female ratio there, signed up for the dating service. He and his bride headed for Alaska two weeks after getting married and are still there.
What do I think of online dating services? I think good ones are great.
I often hear people say \”I fell in love at first sight.\” But they didn’t. What they fell into was lust. Good arranged marriages during Medieval and Renaissance times worked better than most marriages spawned in our modern age – online or offline.
A good dating service can do just what I did, only a lot faster because it can use the computer. It can match people for what they identify as important to them. It can screen out pairs that look surface compatible, but have underlying incompatibilities.
When Tom and I married, we were not yet in love with each other. But we knew that we had enough things in common that we could build a workable marriage. That is what we did, and we grow more in love with each other every day.
An online dating service can’t provide someone you can love at first sight, but it can provide someone with whom you have enough in common that you can build a workable marriage. You just have to do the work.
About The Author:
Denice Ritter lives with her husband Tom in Utah. She teaches at the local college and writes freelance in her spare time. If you are looking for online adult dating opportunities, she recommends the website: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
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Increase Your Online Dating Success By Including The Most Appropriate Photos
Because so many people are using dating sites now, it is hard to stand out in a crowd.
You need to get the other viewers’ attention in less than 10 seconds. You have to grab it. Because people are so visual, a photo is essential.
A photograph may be optional in order to set up a profile, but typing your life story is not going to get you anywhere if no one looks at your profile. If anything, you should have the photo up first, before anything else.
Most sites have an option where the people browsing profiles can check a box indicating they only want to see profiles with photos.
Just as in real life, first impressions count. Your primary photo should be taken in good lighting and really show your face. Take off the hat and sunglasses and don’t stare into the sun. Look directly into the camera. Don’t duck your head down or turn in profile.
Some people advise black and white photos. This can cover up some minor flaws in your complexion and make you look mysterious and intellectual. Black and white photos can fall flat if they are out of focus, however. Besides, most people prefer color photos.
Pick colors that make you stand out from the background. Also, pick colors that don’t make you look too sallow. Yellow and green can be risky.
Some men feel tempted to crop the top of the photo to conceal the receding hairline. Women are not fooled by that.
Don’t hide behind objects, either. Men are not fooled by that.
If you misrepresent yourself in the photo on your profile, you can’t hide what you look like when you finally meet. It could be very embarrassing to have your date excuse him or herself, especially after that horrified look of discovery.
Try to pose in a photo doing something that is natural to you. If you are not into skiing or body surfing, don’t submit photos of yourself doing those activities. You might wind up dating a fanatic who does those activities too often for your taste.
Now, there is one topic that is very delicate and I am going to have to take you gentlemen aside and say this as gently as I can. If you are a heterosexual male, do not ever submit a photo of yourself nude, especially below the belt. Ever. Some shirtless photos can be fine in context, but be realistic about your physical condition.
Ladies, similar advice applies, but I want to layer on the issue of personal safety. Do you really want a stranger to rush you?
Another thing to remember is who is in the photo. Don’t put photos of your minor children on the Internet. It is not safe for the kids. Your date can meet the kids later.
Avoid photos with attractive members of the appropriate sex. Even if she’s your daughter, women are not going to know what to think when they see your fifty year old self with a hot 25 year old who might look like you.
Never ever put photos of yourself with your ex cropped out. It won’t kill you to get some fresh photos taken.
Secondary photos can be fun. That’s where you can have a photo of yourself with your dog, your Harley, your sunglasses and even a gorilla mask.
Photos of just your pets, your possessions or locations won’t help your cause either. If you are afraid to show your face in public, most people will assume that the reason is that you really do have something to hide.
About The Author:
After ten years of dating, Kandice Skaggs finally met the man of her dreams online. After dating for more than one year, her and her fiancee decided to get married. Kandice suggests that you should set up a profile on as many websites as possible, because you never know where Mr. or Ms. Right might be hanging out online. For adult dating, one of her favorite sites was: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
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Take The Dating Scene One Step At A Time, After Divorce
After divorce, the word \”dating\” scares a lot of people.
If you’ve been married a long time you probably have lost track of all the unwritten rules or even how to go about meeting new eligible people. Many people immediately take off for the clubs thinking that that is the place they are going to meet someone. You may meet someone there, but it depends on what you are looking for.
Assuming that the divorce has left you wondering what to do with the rest of your life, a trip to the club may be what the doctor ordered to see what is going on in the world. Don’t think, however, that this is where to find the woman or man of your dreams, as this rarely happens at the clubs.
Look around you. Who are your friends? Is there someone you think is attractive but are afraid to ask out on a date?
I have always found that an initial casual non-date is the best way to break the ice. \”Hey I’m taking off for lunch would you like to join me?\” That is a very simple way to break the ice with someone, in my opinion, and it gives you a chance to see if this person really is who you thought they were.
Their reaction, whether \”Yes I would\” or \”No I can’t\” will tell you something, and then you can take it from there. If the answer is yes, and you hit it off at lunch – then that simply no-strings-attached meal will have laid the groundwork for asking her/him out for a date in the near future.
It’s not rocket science. If you are like me, your friends always have someone they’d like you to meet.
I took the opportunity to meet everyone I could after my husband died. You never know when the right person might come along. It often happens when you least expect it and not when you’re out looking for that special person.
The important thing to do when you start dating again is not to immediately get yourself tied down. In the rare chance that you do meet the girl/guy of your dreams, then just go for it. That is a rare event, so take your time and explore your options and meet a number of people and enjoy the diversity of personalities, likes and dislikes.
I have been successful in maintaining a few good casual relationships and enjoy the company of these friends from time to time. I explore different vacation places, learn from their experiences and share opinions, desires and goals.
You’d be surprised at how many people have things they’d like to do, but never did because there was no one to do them with. By exchanging ideas and dreams and those things in your bucket list, you may find that you have a common desire to do something or travel somewhere.
There’s nothing better than visiting a place that you’ve never been and sharing it with someone who is also seeing it for the first time. I also enjoy seeing places I never knew I was interested in but my friend was, and I ended up being pleasantly surprised with the trip.
So the whole thing about dating again is to keep an open mind and explore the world, because it is probably all new to you now, especially after years of marriage.
About The Author:
RoseMary Alberts lives in Florida and has a lifetime of dating experiences in her rear view mirror. As a attractive and young 50-year-old, she enjoyed the single life through most of her twenties and for the last ten years, since the death of her late husband. For no-strings-attached, casual relationships, visit: http://www.nsadatingsite.com/
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Are You Fighting The Secret Formula?
Those who know me – know I’m in love with airplanes and science. (Yes – your Sales Diva is secretly a nerd)
I \”grew-up\” in a little red and white Cessna 120 airplane. My father trained for his pilot’s license when I was 11 years old and for years I was the only one who would fly with him!
Flying with my dad was one of my favorite things to do (and still is!)
One of the lessons he taught me about flying is that an airplane uses almost 60% of its fuel for take-off.
Just those few minutes of going down the run-way and lifting up into the air uses the most energy. But once the plane is air-borne it is able to use minimal fuel to successfully stay in the air.
Are You Fighting The Secret Formula?
Now let’s tap into my crazy science nerd side.
W. Edwards Deming is the American statistician who spent over 50 years on statistical study. He realized that for every process there is a beginning and an end. (OK – no laughing here – there’s more!)
His contribution is considered historically so important that U.S. News and World Report called him \”one of the hidden turning points in history\”.
He discovered when you focus on the first 15% of the process and get it correct (its initial conditions), you ensure at least 85% of your desired outcome.
\”By focusing on the FIRST 15% of ANYTHING, the remaining 85% will effortlessly follow.\”
My dad and Mr. Deming are from the same school of thought.
What Would My Dad Or W. Edwards Deming Think Of You?
Right now you’re letting things you’re beginning draaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaag out.
You’re spending all your time making figure 8 laps on the runway!
Are you investing ENOUGH of your time, energy and money into the first 15% of a project, customer or your business?
I just saw the look that crossed your face (it’s my super-science-geek-glasses)…and I know you’re probably NOT creating a POWERFUL 15%.
Hmmm.
And you’re also wondering why you’re having wimpy and weinery results?
Remember – THE FIRST 15% is the powerful stuff:
My Diva Dare?
NOW IS THE TIME. Get your 15% Formula FLYING!!!
Love from your Bossy Sales Diva, Wanna-Be Pilot and Scientist,
Kim
About The Author:
Kim Duke is an unconventional, sassy and savvy sales expert that shows women small biz owners and entrepreneurs sizzling sales tips on how to increase sales in a fun, easy, stress-free way! Get the FREE report \”The 5 Biggest Sales Mistakes Women Make\” at http://salesdivas.com/Ezine-signup.php
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